Little did I realize that sometimes other adventures get in the way of transition.
I realized with all the change going on in my life, I needed some things to remain the same. Over the past couple of weeks, that was two big activities: Passover and Boy Scouts. We keep Kosher and for Passover, that means cleaning out your cabinets and cleaning your appliances, then switching dishes and pots and pans. No small task. It does feel good though to get stains out of the fridge and crumbs off the stove and floor. A thorough spring cleaning. In a sense, it was doing physically what I was doing in my head, as I was coming to grips with the changes occurring in my work. So a question for you: can you do something physical, e.g. cleaning or gardening, that can mimic physically what you are doing mentally? Maybe that will help you with the transition and thought process.
One pound of matza per person? I’m a Scoutmaster of a Boy Scout troop and when we can, Passover is a great time to go camping. But we also have to do that with Passover in mind. And one of my learnings after doing this two years in a row: for a 4-day trip, you need one pound of matza per person. We went to Iowa, and fortunately Dubuque Iowa, our primary destination, has a great floodgate so even though the Mississippi had crested 6 feet over, they were dry and safe. (Check out the Mississipi River Aquarium and Museum – an excellent new museum about everything to do with the third largest river in the world- most interesting and well done http://www.mississippirivermuseum.com/).
Both of these activities – Passover and Boy Scouts – kept me away from starting with outplacement because they took planning, time and work. In a strange way though, they also helped me get my head ready to truly jump into the job hunt-next step process. They couldn’t have come at a better time, even though I thought at first they couldn’t have come at a worse time and were just “getting in the way.”
Our last stop in Iowa was at the Field of Dreams in Dyersville http://www.fieldofdreamsmoviesite.com/ . What a great metaphor for where I want to go. They had a few movie posters mounted with some quotes from the movie. “This field, this game, is a part of our past. It reminds us of all that was good and can be good again.” Yes, all can be good again. If I build my own business, will they come? It was fun to play on the field and think about past, present, and future.
Make time to play or do what is “normal” in your life – it is not a distraction and in fact may make the transition easier. You never know when doing one thing will give you ideas or contacts in other ways. Always take time to dream about what can be as you go through the process of determining what will be.